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I wish so much that I knew about how powerful my body was when I had my two sons. Instead, like most women I had heard horror stories regarding giving birth and so like most women I had a degree of fear and anxiety around the birthing experience. I did not trust my body to be able to do what it was designed to do. It was only after postnatal surgery and a severe flare of endometriosis that I found myself on an unexpected quest into reclaiming the power and wisdom inherent in female bodies. You can read about my journey in my first book ‘Reclaiming Feminine Wisdom’.
When I began making discoveries about myself through tracking my cycles’ cyclical rhythms and incorporating feminine based therapies I became angry about the loss of true feminine wisdom. Far from what my culture had subconsciously taught me about being a woman. This most definitely applies to becoming a mother and the rite of passage that occurs when giving birth. I medicated my birth at 4 cm with my first child because having been someone who had experienced menstrual pain through life I couldn’t get my head around the fact that I would cope fine in labour.
And there is the problem, in labour it’s about surrendering to the wisdom and intelligence of your body and asking your mind to work with you whilst allowing the experience to unfold. With my second something very interesting happened, I decided to try using visualisation and body scans to ensure I wasn’t holding tension and I focused on slow and deep breathing. I had done mindfulness and meditation since my first child and so was using some of what I had experienced in those classes. I was actually, at the time, unknowingly using some hypnobirthing techniques. I couldn’t believe it when they checked me that I was 8cm and heading into transition. I didn’t even know what ‘transition’ meant back then. I went straight into fight/flight adrenaline and fear mode. This was because I had planned an epidural for my second birth as I was anxious that I wouldn’t be able to do the pushing stage and I had done the same for my first child. There was a huge hormonal reaction going on for me at that time and I had no confidence in the ability of my body to go the whole way.
This makes me wince, having trained as a hypnobirthing teacher now and with the deeper understanding of my body I can see how little I trusted, knew and understood. There is no point regretting but with the knowledge and understanding I now have, which is so much more than back then, I would have kept going for a natural birth. Instead I medicated at 8 cm when I was so close and had been doing so well! The techniques I was using had truly worked. I had no reason to medicate at this late stage apart from my own fear that was making the decisions. You can read more about my story in my book through signing up for the free mini course or purchasing the online package.
I want to make it really clear that I do not judge any women on the choices they make in labour, including opting for pain relief, or whilst giving birth. We all need to feel empowered in the choices we make, whatever they are. I love the results and empowerment that hypnobirthing offers for women no matter what happens. Knowledge is truly power and I am hugely passionate about teaching what I wish I’d known.
My approach is..
- Non judgemental
- Supportive of all choices and a woman’s right to choose
- Working towards a positive experience no matter how your birth unfolds or any choices you make
- Focused on empowerment in all birth settings
- Rooted in the science and research of the links between the min/body and emotions and how this relates to childbirth
- Why it’s important to release fears and anxiety as you approach labour and being aware of cultural implications.
- Ensuring you feel prepared and supported as you enter a vulnerable transition. You will learn what you can control, whilst letting go of what you cannot.
- As a pregnancy massage therapist and maternity reflexologist I incorporate the importance of touch therapy in activating the parasympathetic nervous system or calming the response of the sympathetic nervous system if activated, and why it matters. I offer these techniques to the birth partner, along with others so they are prepared to take an active role.
I have been very lucky to have been trained in birth support by the highly renowned Suzanne Yates (wellmother.org) and Juliet Hollingsworth (author of ‘Hypnobirth Yourself’). She is the co- course creator of the fertility2birth hypnobirthing course (fertility2birth.com). I am also due to train with Dani Diosi from mamaserene.
I am a maternity reflexologist and massage therapist so I incorporate a real range of techniques and wisdom into my course days. Teaching birth partners techniques to use for labour so they often feel they have an active role.
It would be an honour to support you in your birth journey.